Dirty Diaper

My parents raised me to respect others, which includes people and property. Our family believed in the “Golden Rule.”

“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. Matthew 7:12

The road that leads to our small farm ends at our property. Most people that drive on this little country road have business with us–either family, visitors we know, or our mail carrier. We don’t see very many strangers, but when we do, we’re polite and respectful.

This past week someone tossed a dirty diaper in our driveway–along with some nasty wipes. Since the road only comes to our farm, I’m not convinced there was any good reason for this vehicle to make a stop in our driveway.

I won’t go into detail about my views on the character of someone that would discard a dirty diaper on someone else’s property, although I expect you can guess.  I’m not having happy thoughts, but–as a Christian–I need to forgive and pray for them.

Clearly, I don’t understand how someone could do such a disgusting action. When my children were still in diapers I planned ahead for diaper changes (this person did as well since they had a clean diaper to put on the child). Along with diapers, most parents bring along a plastic bag to dispose of the used diaper. Everyone knows a dirty diaper has a terrible smell and we don’t necessarily want it in our car. But, to throw it out onto someone else’s property for them to pick up?

Why would anyone do such a thing?

Many years ago I worked out of town and had an apartment in another city. One night, after a week-end at home, I returned to the apartment to find that I had been robbed. My belongings had been searched, mattresses thrown off the beds, and exterior doors left open. My computer, some cash, several items of jewelry, and my sense of security were stolen.

One special anniversary, several years previously, my husband gifted me with a gold chain and cross. I loved this necklace. It was the most beautiful thing I ever owned.

The robber took my necklace.

Why do people do such things? Why is there such disrespect for others and their property?

There are lots of reasons, of course, but I’m not going into those. Instead, I’m focusing on reactions.

I was angry. I’m still angry.

In regard to the diaper, I’m irritated. I’ll get over it. I’ve tried to get over the loss of my necklace–I haven’t. It’s been years and I still mourn.

You’re probably thinking, “Get over it!”

And, you are right--I need to get over it. It’s only a necklace. In the grand scheme of life–it’s not a big deal. After all, I’m blessed that I was away from home and wasn’t attacked or injured during the robbery. There are much greater losses that people suffer than the theft of jewelry. Yes, it was special because it was an anniversary gift from my husband and we’ll never be able to afford to replace it.

A necklace is only a material object.

But, I’m still mad.

Do you have a grudge that you’re unable to let go? Do you harbor anger or resentment toward someone that you cannot forgive?

I’ve prayed over the years that I could forgive the thief and let go of my anger.  Most of the time I succeed, but when situations happen that remind me of the lack of love and respect in our society (a dirty diaper in my driveway), anger and resentment rear an ugly head and I grumble.

What should I do? I need to remember the answer Jesus gave to Peter.

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” (or seventy times seven) Matthew 18:21-22

I need to continue to pray that the love of Jesus can help those who are lost. I know people won’t act in ways that show hatred or disrespect for others if Jesus is part of their lives. I hope you will join me in praying that we can love one another. If you have suggestions for anyone struggling to forgive, please share by making a comment below. If you need prayer, please let me know so I can pray for you.

Remember, Jesus loves us so much that He took the burden of our sins upon Himself and gave His life for us. Jesus loves us! Can we share that love with others? A love that include forgiveness, understanding, and compassion?