Mothers and other mothers

We recently celebrated Mother’s Day–when we attempt to let our mothers know how much they mean to us by treating them to a delicious meal, sending flowers, mailing a card, or some other tradition unique to our families. Mothers and other mothers earn this special treatment by the love and sacrifices they grant us on a regular basis.

What is an “other” mother?

We all have a mother. If the woman who gave birth to us is still with us, we are truly blessed. For many of us, whose mothers have gone to be with Jesus, Mother’s Day is a poignant memory of loss. But we’ve likely had “other” mothers in our lives. These are the extraordinary women who nurtured, mentored, and cherished us, not because they were obligated to because of a biological connection, but simply because they loved us.

Our other mother(s) may be an older sister, grandmother, teacher, aunt, sisters in Christ, a neighbor, or loving women brought together through circumstances. These women impacted our lives in significant ways, their influence and actions guided us through trials, challenges, and life experiences.

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her; (Proverbs 31:25-28)

I’ve been blessed by more than one other mother. My older sisters provided care giving, wisdom, encouragement, and guidance through good times and bad. A dear sister-in-Christ mentored me as a new Christian, as I struggled with the concept of submission. A loving friend offered kindness and support as I grieved the loss of a loved one.

Who are your other mothers?

Honoring our mothers and other mothers

Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Honor her for all her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. (Proverbs 31:29-31)

Our “official” Mother’s Day ended at midnight, May 10, but can we continue to honor our mothers and other special women who shaped our lives?

We can let those special women in our lives know we love and honor them.

• Write a letter or thank you note for their positive impact on our lives.
• Continue those small acts of love and kindness that we do on Mother’s Day, birthdays or special occasions–a meal out or in, a telephone call just because, or a fun day trip.
• Be a good listener when your loved one needs an ear.
• What other actions show these special women our love and appreciation?

Sometimes the best gift (present) is the gift of our presence–the gift of time and being with our “other” mother and the special women in our lives.

Please do not feel overlooked, you special men who also do an extraordinary job as mentors, caregivers, role models, and encouragers. We love you! It’s a wonderful blessing when men recognize those special women in their lives.

I hope and pray, each of us will reach out in thanksgiving and love to a woman who has loved us and stood with us in the hard knocks of life.

May God bless you, my friends.